Love is a Calabash, City Boy Blues and Other Cool Stories…


Love is a calabash. Seriously. A bloody calabash and a particularly difficult calabash to climb out of. A worrisome number of my friends and acquaintances have broken up with their significant others over the last three months (12 of them at last count) and I have had the unfortunate opportunity to witness some of the fallout. While most of them are mature young adults who have been able to take it understandably well, it has not been pretty in some cases. It is all very traumatizing to be honest. I don’t know why they choose to put ME through this. Just when I’m beginning to feel happy for them and starting to think up cool nicknames and corny ‘couple’ jokes to tell when we go out together or talk about their partners –BAM! The calabash is broken. Anyway, I’ve already told quite a number of them what I am about to write here but it is important to have this written in black and white and in clear legal terms so that there can be no misunderstanding.

If YOU (regardless of gender or specie), already being in or currently entering into a social friendship contract with Me (herein after referred to as myself or I) begin to fall in love with someone whereupon you proceed to engage in the social partnership commonly recognized as a ‘relationship’ in which one of you is designated the ‘penis owner and primary male personage’ hereafter referred to as the ‘boyfriend’ and the other being designated the ‘vagina custodian and primary female personage’ hereafter referred to the ‘girlfriend’, you must agree to the following:

  1. That the relationship contract shall in due course culminate in the marriage of the boyfriend and the girlfriend at a ceremony where I shall be the best man (or chief brides-male, as the case may be) and shall be entitled to a minimum of 36.735% by weight of  all the small chops present at this ceremony.
  2. That, upon experiencing any distress significant enough to cause a breakage of this contract, the boyfriend and girlfriend shall consult Me within 48 hours and no breakage of this relationship contract shall proceed without my knowledge and prior consent.
  3. That, upon the decision of the boyfriend and girlfriend to engage in a threesome and/or group sex and/or any associated sexual debaucheries, I shall be consulted with the details of this intention and have first right of refusal to participate in the aforementioned activity without prejudice.
  4. Should the relationship contract lead to the issue of offspring, such issue shall have as a minimum, one of my names and I shall be the godfather to this issue. This will enable me use Photoshop to edit a poster of the ‘The godfather’ movie and replace Al Pacino’s face with mine as soon as possible. This is an essential part of the contract.

This contract is binding in all its elements and any breach shall be punished by the deployment of an armored Sigidi to the breaching party’s home. Such an armored Sigidi shall as a minimum be equipped with Chicken pox warheads and a fever and headache gun turret. Dysentery and Diarrhea missiles are optional but also permitted by this agreement.

This agreement is fully legally binding and retroactive and enforceable in the Jurisdiction of the entire Universe and all alternate realities except the Federal republic of Northern Eglionitrianus Major and the Klingon outerlands.  

_______________                             _______________                                   ____________

Boyfriends signature                                  Girlfriends signature                                            My signature

It’s all legal now. So dear friends, print, sign in triplicate, return and proceed to enter the calabash at your own risk.

Anyway, I’ve recently relocated from London (the so-called centre of the world) to Abingdon (a small town North-West of London and near Oxford City which is most assuredly not the centre of the world). I am a city child at heart and the move has been….uncomfortable. I’m used to bright lights and boisterous nights. I like the semi-anonymity of being able to walk through a city and not recognize anyone.  I like being lost in a 21st century metropolis as long as I have a small quiet corner to return to when I’m done with my urban adventures.  There is an overwhelming sense of potential one gets from the charged environment of places like Lagos, New York, Tokyo, London, Bangkok, Paris and every other big city in the world. Don’t get me wrong, small towns have their charms and I appreciate them for what they are but I don’t know if I can be completely happy in a small town. At least London is just about an hour and £40 away, I can go if need be but so far, I’ve been suffering a case of the city boy blues.

In the inconsequential-cool-story scetion: I deleted my twitter account about a month ago because … well…because… I was tired of it. But as with all things that have the potential to bring fun or joy, I was eventually drawn back – quite by accident. I opened twitter on my old computer and it logged into my account as it is set to do automatically. Login before 30 days= Account restoration. Bloody technology. Anyhow, I took the opportunity to DM a few friends and then the emails and DMs kept coming until finally, I realized how much I had missed some people and that it’s just more convenient to communicate with people on twitter especially with those that I met through twitter in the first place. It’s just an efficient communication tool and will be used as such. So there. No more account deletion unless something bizarre happens.

The new T.I. mixtape – ‘Fuck the city up’ is pretty awesome. I’ve had the song ‘Oh Yeah’ on repeat for most of the last three weeks.

The new Nightwish album ‘Imaginaerum’ is also awesome. Seriously, you have to listen to it all from start to finish to fully appreciate its scope and epic-ness.

 In other random-rubbish-floating around-in-my-head-news, I’ve come to realize just how much science has contributed to the acceptance of previously marginalized groups in society especially when it comes to the matter of racism. I remember my father telling me a story relayed to him by a friend of his who studied in South Africa in the late 70’s at the height of apartheid. There were a lot of Indians coming into the country at that time as well as Chinese and many other Asians. There were also a number of “sub-Saharan Africans”. They are all important parts of the story but not the main meat of it. This story concerns a Senior Engineer’s attitude towards toilets.

‘Whites’ and ‘Coloreds’ had separate toilets which, I assume, was to ensure that the white excrement was not contaminated by colored excrement which was at the time, I further presume, considered inferior excrement because the White man’s excrement was smarter and more advanced and had a better economy and had blue eyes and blonde hair. Whatever the reason, separate toilets were the way. Now with the influx of Indian and Chinese engineers who proved over time that they were every bit as capable as the Caucasian engineers, there was a problem. Which toilets would they use? They were apparently too intelligent to share toilets with the Negros but of course not yet civilized enough to enter the Caucasian’s glorious toilet. Protests and dissent ensued. Conundrum. The most senior engineer on the site where my father’s friend worked – a German – was called upon to solve the problem. In the end, he came up with what was a mildly ridiculous but completely reasonable solution to the problem. He decided that everyone would use toilets according to their performance on the job. So every month, the employees were graded according to performance and divided into two groups. The performers and the sub-par. Lists were put up beside the toilet door accordingly. As my father’s friend told the story, in 2 months, both toilets had about equal proportions of White and Black users. The only noticeable trend was that the Asians always used the ‘performers’ toilets. He always used that as an example to explain why Asians are slowly taking over the world technologically and consequently, economically. I should point out that what the German did was illegal at the time but no one reported it.

Anyway, my point is, it’s usually in such endeavors where mental capacity matters more than any other consideration that you find that prejudices are quickly done away with. Many examples abound. As far back as 400BC, Scholars were exchanged between kingdoms to share knowledge and were generally treated specially regardless of thr politics of the day. The International space station is another example of large scale human cooperation even between countries that generally antagonize each other. Many others abound. In such matters, no one cares where you are from as long as you can contribute to knowledge and work for the glory of science. Of course scientific fields are not the only area where you find this phenomenon but it is one of the most consistent and obvious about it.

Being an Adult is hard. Much harder than it seems from outside. To a child, being an adult means having all the money and being able to buy as much ice cream as you want, getting to drive a car and generally being able to beat or shout at people smaller than you. I’ve had to be an adult for a long time now and it’s just one issue after another. Having to worry about Houses, Work, Money, Family,  Business, Interpersonal relationships and all the other things one generally has to deal with in ones capacity as an adult is not in the least bit fun. I suppose I’m learning and getting used to it but it’s never easy. Taking major life decisions without parental guidance and having only a brother as a sounding board for everything is difficult. I’m sure it is especially so for my brother and just as much for anyone else in a similar situation. I wonder if it would be any easier if I had a significant other to talk to or worse because of the issues that generally come with introducing another human being into your life. I don’t know. If you know, tell me so I can order one of those Russian mail-order-brides people generally get off the internet.  What’s that you say? I should just toast a babe and get a proper girlfriend? Do I look like a toaster? Do you see two slits in my body cavity where you can insert babes till they are brown and hot and ready to eat? No? Me neither. (“Brown and hot and ready to eat” is severely sexual now that I think about it). Besides, didn’t you read the first part of this thing? Love is a calabash.

Rabbits taste delicious.

Perhaps it’s time for another travel story. It’s almost been a year since Bangkok and I am on a trip right now (which refuses to end even though it’s supposed to by now, but one must make the most of every situation so I shall do what I can and have fun). Once it is concluded, we shall see. Right now its wavering between epic and annoying so I dont know. It’s always fun recording and sharing memories though.

I should probably stop now before we hit arctic conditions.


37 thoughts on “Love is a Calabash, City Boy Blues and Other Cool Stories…

  1. That shit analysis is hilarious shit!!! And for goodness sake how did rabbit flesh find a way to creep in here? Smh. Welcome back. I missed this.

  2. Lmho @ “..because the White man’s excrement was smarter and more advanced and had a better economy and had blue eyes and blonde hair..” (Y)

    Being an adult is HARD. I cudnt wait to grow up as a kid so I wud stop committing sin. -_-

  3. ‘The Contract’ was quite humourous, the rest of it has this patina of nostalgia and bitterness on it, hope U will share the source of that with us soon. Excellent writing, thanks for sharing.

  4. From what i see, you have no problem with the art of writing but then, there is your personality… It’s as mysterious as a “Conundrum”. I’m not curious!… Did i say it was a great read?

  5. The Contract was hilarious, particularly the threesome and Godfather provisions!
    The Awesomeness is back I see, Yaay!
    Yes, you need to write about France! Get on it asap
    (this is possibly the first time I’ve posted a comment on this here blog… I think.)

  6. LOL.

    I can relate with the city boy blues bit a little too much. Thankfully, I’m back to city living in a couple of months.

    As for the rest, hfgsfsfdjfkghfgdhgdk??? Fhgfjgjkgkhhdgdh!!!!!!!


    P.S- We caught the sub oh.

    • Its not fair. I want to go back to Lagos too 😦 or at least London. Ah well… Lucky you. Enjoy for two.

      Mind your language woman -___-

      The sub, yes, ehen have you printed and signed?

  7. “I assume, was to ensure that the white excrement was not contaminated by colored excrement which was at the time, I further presume, considered inferior excrement because the White man’s excrement was smarter and more advanced and had a better economy and had blue eyes and blonde hair. ” … LMAO!!! Rabbits tho.

  8. The lawyer in me enjoyed the contract (lol’ed) and I thought it was the end, then more “let’s gist shall we?” continued. Good to have you back, and oh squeeze out all the fun you can in Paris.

    P.S: Some of us have parents but it still feels like we are doing everything all by ourselves, like they are not there. Adulthood sucks but it’s perks are great as well. Was totally drunk on that section of the gist.

    • Of course you lawyers like such things -____-
      Contracts and agreements and documents that transfer custody of one’s soul to the devil. Lawyers. Hmph!


      Perks of adulthood? What are these? I seem to not be fully informed,

  9. I laughed hard @ d terms n conditions for couples.
    Yayy!!! you are not leaving twitter (at least not now) *dancing azonto*
    Congratulations on your move.
    The rest i just couldn’t read (“short-term attention span”) ¯\..(•͡.̮ •͡ )../¯
    All in all, good piece. Funny and your message, precise.

  10. My friend Wole is a great man…scratch that, he’s a lunatic. I’ve missed ur sick mind on these blog streets bruv. Nice to have you back. Btw, I’m not signing that silly contract…if there’s gonna be a threesome we’d rather have Charlize Theron, Nicole Scherzinger or last last Lindsey Lohan sef before we consider ‘the gays’ (who are almost women) before having agbalagba like you joining us. There shall be no sword crossing on this ship sir, no siree. *ahem* I digress…
    I totally agree with you on the supremacy of white poop. I am fortunate enough to have a white ancestor and I must tell you, once every 3 months or so I am priviledged to poop the white man’s poop and lemme tell you sir, it is not the same. The white man poop is beautiful, it is well lubricated, it causes no pain. It is exactly what I master white jesus created before a retarded white man made love to an ape and produced a spawn of black people that had black poop that was never part of the masterplan in the first place. I appreciate the fact that you took the time out to explain this to the simpletons that come to read this blog.
    Anyways, hope you can share more of your travel adventures here soon. Bangkok’s been too long & lagos didn’t even get a mention…(I judge you, is it because we don’t have any ladyboys? Ehn? But we have male fargeens…dat’s gotta count for something…moving on).
    We await ur next post. Till then…SHALOM.

    • Vector what is this?

      And you must sign that contract o. You musto sign utunu. Sword crossing can be avoided by proper planning and designating specific err…penetration zones.

      Travel adventures! yes, I left Lagos out didnt I? I wondee why. It just seemed…weird writing about it.

      tox will get you. Sleep with one eye open.

  11. @ Your First paragraph, MY BROTHERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!! IS GAJ!!! I was just saying this same thing yesterday! Y’all stay together and SPARE ME the pain of a break-up! SHISH!

    @ Article number 2 of the contract: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LIKE!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Wole… the toaster comment -_______________- DUDE -____________-

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